Making a choice as a step to let go

Reading the Red Book from ACoA, I came across "letting go creates stronger boundaries" (p. 148). It is explained that "the more we let go, the stronger our boundaries become" (p. 148). As I work once again on my step three, I come to comprehend that in order to let go, I "must realize what letting go means." (p. 146) I also accept that I "will invariably struggle with control and self-doubt" and that "such struggles are only natural since [I] relied on controlling [my] feelings and emotions to survive in [my] homes and relationships" hence "control meant a sense of safety and predictability; however, [I] surrendered much of [my] personality and spirit through this manner of living" (p. 145-146). Further more, "we let go of control by asking for what we need instead of manipulating others for things we really don't want". Hence, I started to try something new: I gardened as a choice. I didn't garden out of fear or as a mean to control, I garden for the pleasure of trying something new.