Accepting responsibility

Recently as I was reading about the steps though also working at "letting go" and doing my own inventory of what I needed to change in regard to my own behavior, I realized I needed to take "responsibility" even though it seems much easier to hide behind "it's not my doing". In truth, I have to admit my life is chaotic, I tend to recreate the chaos of my past. I may have the answer to why though now I need to stop justifying it, I need to eliminate it. Hence, I confess I tend to surround myself with people that I "try" to save. A person pointed out that I surround myself with "losers" and it kind of hurt though he was right. I don't mean to sound mean nor judgmental, I do surround myself with people who have issues. Perhaps, I can hide from my responsibility in this matter, by claiming they find me (we tend to attract such people) or I can as of today, accept my part of responsibility. Hence, I admit (not that I like it) I get myself in these "unhealthy" relationships. For instance, while I like to believe I was doing a good deed, by helping that man's son who was a heroin addict, I may have help though in the process, I was very stressed out and as my friend pointed out, put myself in dangerous situations. Without quoting exactly: I acted stupid. In truth, when he said it, I couldn't understand, all I kept on thinking is I am doing the right thing, I am helping. Though, as I "think" now, I come to realize I wasn't necessarily helping for the right reason as I was using that situation to avoid my own. I was seeking to "save" him as I wished I could have saved my mom. Even worse, by getting involved, I put myself in jeopardy and avoided taking steps to improve my own life.
It dunned on me tonight that in truth that "friend" pointed out the inevitable: I avoid taking responsibility for my own life. I need to cease surrounding myself with such people. Let's be honest, I can't help anyone nor am I God. As it is mentioned in the red book, I try to play God when I am not. It is time for me to truly let go and cease getting involved in people's lives. I have my own life to be involved in, as that friend likes to say: "I must act and cease being a spectator in my life".